What Guns are Good for Girls?

I’m thinking about making the jump to carrying a concealed weapon for protection at night and when I out and about alone. The only problem is, I’m a complete newbie to guns. And I’m scared of them. What type of gun would you recommend for a girl to carry on her person? How does a person get comfortable around guns, and most importantly, how do you keep your children safe around them?

And advice would help. Leave a comment below and tell me your thoughts.



  1. Preface: I grew up with and around guns. Most houses not only had several guns, but they sat in the open, behind doors, much like a broom or mop….guns were (and still are) just another tool.

    Let’s start with safety. First and foremost, education is the key to gun safety. This goes for you as well as for your child. Our kids have been raised around guns, know what they are, and know what they can do.
    This was how I was raised, and from everything I can see and have read, it works. Treat anything like something secret, special, and a child’s curiosity will drive them into looking, touching, and interacting with whatever is considered “off limits”. I sat my kids (all girls) down with guns and explained these were much like knives, tools to be used, and not for their hands until they were older. I also added that is they wanted to touch them, to let me know, and we could go over how they worked. I also took them shooting several times, and they’ve seen the end results from hunting trips. All educating them as to how the tool called a gun works. There is no fear of guns in my kids minds, only healthy respect, just like the healthy respect they have for my hammers, band saw, lawnmowers, and any other tool I have that can cause damage.

    You should also get as much training as possible on firearms yourself. A tool is only as useful as the operators skill to use it. From Brian’s post on building the compost bin, I can bet that if I gave him a full wood working shop, he would not be able to use most of the equipment to its full potential, and therefore should get training first, be fore he tackled building a house. The opposite is a master carpenter, like Norm Abram who could take a tape measure, hammer, and hand saw, and build a piece of custom furniture out of the same lumber Brian used to make the compost bin. Knowing how to use a tool makes the tool that much more efficient.

    As to what gun would work for you, that is like saying “what car should I drive”.

    What caliber do you want to carry? The smaller the cartridge size, the more ammo you can carry without overburdening yourself. ANY caliber is good, in my mind, assuming you know its limitations. Read this article for more info :

    You might think about opting for a smaller caliber pistol that you are more comfortable shooting, giving you a faster second shot (or more) than a cannon you are afraid to fire, but can knock down a charging rhino.

    Action type: Do you want a revolver or a semi-auto? Both have benefits and downfalls. Revolvers almost never jam. Semi-autos are far more prone to jams, though are still very reliable. But revolvers offer only 4-9 shots before reloading, while a semi can hold almost twice that and still be concealable due to inherent design.

    Since you did specify smaller frames, there are some titanium framed guns that are lightweight that would fit the bill. I personally like the Kel-Tec line of pocket pistols. They are lightweight, compact, and reliable. I can carry on in my swim shorts and you’d never know it was there. We have several in both 9mm and .32. though you need to understand the guns operations and limitations, as always.

    In short, get your CWP. Then go to a shooting range with a someone that knows what they are doing. Shoot a lot of different guns. You wouldn’t buy the first car you see without test driving a bunch of them, would you? Find a local range that offers gun rentals, go have fun, learn about the guns and your preferences. Then choose.

    Both safety and choosing a gun have the same requirement – education πŸ™‚

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    1. You gave me a ton of great info and a solid plan to follow through on! Thanks so much, DB, this is great. See you at the expo!

  2. I actually tried a lot of the smaller guns like a 38, but it ended up that I was far more comfortable with a Glock 9mm. My husband put me an attachment to help me slide it back. It made it very easy to work with. I too was very frightened, but am feeling much more with practice. The video is about the pull on the slide.

    1. Hey Sandy, thanks for your comment! I would definitely have a hard time with the sliding as well. An attachment like that would make it MUCH easier. Thanks for the video link!

  3. First of all there is no one right gun for women. There is no right gun for all circumstances. You will learn a lot at the concealed carry class. Given your lack of familiarity with firearms, I would suggest taking as many courses with as many different instructors as possible. If you can find a woman instructor, so much the better.
    If you are going to carry in your purse, a revolver is probably a better option as you can fire through the purse if need be without the gun jamming. That being said, on body carry is better when possible. Finding the right holster will be as much of a challenge as finding the right firearm. I like these:


    A good belt to support the weight of holster/gun are equally important.

    Rather than try to spell out all the things you need to consider, I am going to suggest what I consider to be some of the best firearm websites for women.

    http://www.corneredcat.com/ This one has a lot of information. Click around the site and read, read, read.

    http://womenofcaliber.wordpress.com/ Again, click around and read.



    Congratulations on deciding to become informed and taking the first step in learning how to protect yourself and your family.

    1. I definitely see myself taking many training classes and I’ll try to find women instructors if I can. I think I am going to try to body carry as well. Thank you so much for all these links. I am going to bookmark them so I can refer back to them. Thanks again for your comment, WI, this is very informative.

      1. My mother-in-law took a women’s-only class up your way a few years ago. No men were allowed on site during the class. Even the instructors were female/ Pretty nifty idea, if you ask me…no know-it-all husbands around to distract the females.

        Not that I’m ever wrong….


        I’ll see if I can get more info about it for you

  4. [I don’t go all public on the internet when I talk about guns, because I’m in the camp the unwarned are more likely to leave me alone. I like being the surprise.]

    The right kind of gun is the one you learn to use, and will wear everywhere (CorneredCat.com was my favorite site about woman doing concealed carry when I started reading/carrying 3 or 4 years ago. Her words helped me develop my carry philosophy.)

    Two reasons I carry everywhere/all the time:
    1. Nobody can predict when it’s going to be needed (if you can, you shouldn’t go there)
    2. There is no better place to keep your gun accessible to you and unavailable to your babies (if that’s in your equation) than on your person.

    Speaking of children I have never (“knock on wood”) had an issue with persistent gun-talk, grabbiness or freak-outs concerning carrying a gun, and I attribute this (rightly or not) to their early ages when I started.

    When my worrier confided her fear of danger because I was carrying the gun (perhaps at five or six?), I talked about smoke detectors and seat belts (which she, in good, logically-consistent fashion proceeded to add to her worry-list till she passed that phase. Blessedly short).

    When the kids got to talking loudly in public, like they knew it was unique, and wanted to bump their social standing at McDonald’s Playland (some version of ‘my daddy could beat up your daddy.’ perhaps) I told them wearing a gun is like wearing underwear: it is not shameful, anyone can do it, you might even be proud of the kind you’re wearing today, but that does not make it socially acceptable to share with all of McDonald’s.

    Then there was the heartwarming day my 6-year-old boy walked in as I was stuffing my inside-the waistband holster into its spot. It was just us, and he said, in this great little-boy, matter-of-fact way, “You have to bring it with you wherever we go, in case we’re in danger from anything we can’t run away from, we can use it to protect us.”

    Sorry if that freaks anybody out, but it was heartwarming for me, because he had “caught” all the pieces of my CC philosophy:
    1. Always have it with you– just in case
    2. It’s not our first action when threatened, it’s a last-resort
    3. It is for self-protection. It is not a toy or status symbol.

    Just as practical present and predictable as underwear.

    1. (And here I was thwarted by my attempt to be polite and include a real email address. )

      Admin– pls do my a favor and go delete my email address so gravitar will take my pix down. I didn’t get an option to delete.

      1. Hey Anon! Loved your comment! Thanks for sharing your story with us, and I’m glad you didn’t delete it. I like your “underwear” philosophy a lot. πŸ™‚ Practical, present, predictable..I’ll remember that!

  5. A ruger lc9 is ideal. Small, well made, fits in your pocket. Plus there is very little (if any) kick, so as a newbie to guns, it’s not intimidating. This year has been my first year with guns in my hand, my husband and I are learning together. I honestly think if you want a good conceal carry, small, not terrifying as a first time shooter, and most importantly well made, the ruger lc9 is the way to go.

    I also found that I like a Glock 9mm, but there is no safety on it, and I DON’T like that. Not with me being so new to guns, I just don’t trust myself that much yet.

    Go onto Youtube and lookup the username hickok45. He does a lot of gun reviews, and he does them well. I would recommend watching some of his video’s for any gun you find yourself interested in.

    Hope I helped. :]

    1. Hi Jen! The Ruger keeps coming up in as a suggestion- I will def. try that one out. Yeah, I’m not so sure about the safety feature on the Glock. That would worry me too. I just subscribed to kickok45 on YouTube- thanks so much for commenting! You’ve helped me out a lot! πŸ™‚

  6. I took the concealed carry course with my husband. He carries a .357 made by Ruger. I carry a .380. It looks a lot like the Glock 9mm, but smaller. I’m only about 110 pounds and a very small frame, so I wanted a gun that felt right in my hand.

  7. Hey Stephanie

    That’s easy: Smith & Wesson 642 (stainless version) or 442 (blued version). This is a J-frame “snub nose” 5 shot .38 special revolver. It’s double action only and hammerless (won’t get snagged on clothing). Can’t get more simple and easy to use than that. Pull the trigger (approx 8 lb trigger pull), the gun fires. No magazines to mess with, no failure to feed, eject, or extract, no malfunctions (unless you’ve got bad ammo). Stay away from pistols (i.e. semi-automatic handguns), you want a revolver.


    This gun was my backup when I was a cop, I’ve carried it ever since. Super lightweight, concealable, and no nonsense. I carry it in an Uncle Mikes pocket holster in my front pocket. It’s also very affordable: $385.99 for the gun; the holster is around $10.

    Again, for concealed carry, you want to minimize or eliminate the potential to have a malfunction so you can focus on the threat at hand. Forget about the cool factor, it doesn’t matter what the gun looks like. This gun only has one purpose, to defend your life.

    For a safe, go with the GunVault safe, they make a variety of models (https://www.tenringguns.com/search.aspx?SearchTerm=gunvault&sortby=pricedesc). This safe isn’t meant to prevent a burglar from taking your gun, it’s more designed for preventing children from accessing it. I have the GV2000, been using it for years and works well, $140. AC adapter with battery back up.

    Hope that helps!

    1. Hey Tom! At my concealed weapons class, I shot a revolver and I liked it. Do you think this 642 is small and lightweight enough for a skinny girl like me? I looked at your site and the gun looks really nice! The vault looks pretty cool too. I like the price. πŸ™‚ Thanks for stopping by!

  8. I did not grow up with guns but I have really tried to become more comfortable with them since I moved out into the sticks. Initially the black bears were my biggest concern but then once the economy went to shit home invasions became a serious concern. Down in town crime rates have soared, and generally speaking it is not a bad idea to conceal and carry. The permit is easy to get but picking the right gun for you is a matter of preference and what you can physically control. I have shot a variety of hand guns but I know that the XDM my husband carries is not good for me to carry. *It kicks back A LOT, not great if you are a flincher…. luckily I am not, but it takes a lot of practice*

    My Dad and husband both joke that I should get the judge taurus. I am not sure if they are actually serious but it seems like a really fierce little gun.


    As far as safety goes- This is a serious concern for all gun owners… obviously. We have multiple safes that have a touch pad code. We plan to get a bigger more secure safe so that hunting rifles and such can be locked away as well. Our kids are taught gun safety. Under no circumstance, never, ever, never … EVER touch. Etc. With small children you just can’t keep your gun with a round in the chamber. This can be a problem for cases when you are out and about for instance, if someone gets you quick, you get the point. With home invasions or animal attack situations its not as big of a deal.

    With all of that said, I have my conceal to carry but I never purchased my own weapon. I really don’t leave that often. I just cant justify the investment.

  9. I’m sure you are getting a lot of good advice on what kind or gun to get. But given your comments about being uncomfortable with the idea, you might want to also consider mace or pepper spray. There are some places its just not a good idea to be carrying – less likely for a fatal mistake or accident – and more within your comfort zone. Add some basic self-defense training.

    1. Yes!! I also want to get pepper spray and take a self-defense training! I sat in on a self-defense presentation at a preparedness expo and the instructor said the same thing- sometimes mace is a better option. Thanks for commenting.

  10. Seems you’ve already got tons of useful information so I’ll just add a quick comment about my Wife’s recent experience. I grew up around guns, literally around every corner, however my wife did not and was basically scared of them. So recently she wanted… and I wanted her to have a gun. She shot several calibers and types but what we settled on was a Ruger LC9. It’s enough energy to protect, has a actual thumb safety, small enough to tote, and (until the craze) cheaper readily available ammunition. The Kel-Tec PF9 has been assured to me a very reliable cheaper alternative to the LC9, FYI.

  11. First, I would not say there are guns for girls. I saw many girls like you who are easily shoot with M-16 like a pro. So it’s all about training because you can get used to any weapon pretty quickly.
    From what you’ve said it’s clear you need not lightweight, but maybe a portable gun. In this case I’d say any handgun with is portable enough would be good for you.
    If you’re going to use it for protection, I suggest you check out the laws that might apply to you. That’s a prevention measure that might save you from extra trouble afterwards. For instance, here http://firearmtrainingstore.com/about-us/blog/109-new-gun-laws-you-should-know-about/.
    You can also check out the guns from here https://uspatriotarmory.com. Most of them can be found in any shooting range so I’m sure you’ll find which one suits you

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